Playing on the edge

These musings may end up as a rundown of all the European TV we like to watch when the children are asleep, and I’m downing a negroni.

The latest is an Italian series called An Astrological Guide for Broken Hearts. Never been one for astrology, but it’s damn cute, and the lead character is dating a man who prematurely ejaculates. And it’s causing her a great deal of frustration.

Premature ejaculation is as common as fizzy kombuchas in vegan cafes. So isn’t it funny that people harp the assumption that all lovers should be able to engage in 7-hour tantric sex sessions, knowing all the buttons to push.

Sex is messy, awkward, complicated, and a tremendous learning experience, and we can get excited and find it challenging to control ourselves. We’re only human, after all.

Enter edging. Edging is where you take yourself to a point where you feel you’re close to orgasm, then back it up.

Edging intensifies your orgasm, makes sex last longer, allows greater control over ejaculation and gives you a deeper understanding of the body. And it’s just as crucial for vulva owners too.

So how do you do it? It’s not a simple thing to master, but you can get there with practice and patience. The key is to identify when your body is going through the different phases of arousal so that you can catch yourself before you explode.

There are many different techniques, so jump online and school yourself. But a straightforward approach is the stop-start method, where you stop playing when you feel yourself close to an orgasm. You then wait for a minute, and then you resume play.

Practice it, and before you know it, you’ll be edging your way to the precipice of orgasm control.