Game Night Play Menu

I’ve dished up a game night menu with a kinky twist for you to enjoy.  This involves playing a game of choice with some punishments for losing a round. It’s kinda like strip poker and kink both swiped right.

Starters (aka setting Up)

Game choice

This one is up to you, but make it fun and fair. If you’re a reigning chess champ and your partner has never played, then chess probably isn’t going to be that fun. You want to pick something with a more fair playing field.

As much as I want to learn, I’ve never really played chess, but I used to play a fair bit of cards, so we opted for Gin Rummy, but you could go for something like BlackJack or Poker, or backgammon or a board game.

But a word on timing, you want to pick a game where you’ll have a fair amount of winning and losing so that you gather momentum by removing clothing and enjoying some punishments.

Dress code

Dress up in two or three layers. For example, kinky wear and luxe or play outerwear with a mask and/or accessories, such as cuffs and harnesses. You want to wear enough so you’re not naked after losing one round but not too much that you’re still wearing a ski suit three hours later. Get my drift?

Location

Given this is a game where you’re probably getting naked and potentially getting a spanking, I suggest playing in a private space with no interruptions. A bedroom or a lounge room, or a hotel room. This will not fly on the casino floor.

Pick your time

You want to dedicate a couple of hours to this, so figure out a time that suits you. We made the mistake of starting too late in the evening after a long and busy day, so next time, I will definitely start earlier. Of course, everyone is different, so figure out what will work best for you.

Setting the scene

Setting the scene is such an important part of play. It helps to create that vibe that will relax you and get you into a more playful mood. 

Lighting
Harsh overhead ceiling lighting is probably not going to help set the mood. I rarely put ceiling lights on in my house; I am a lamp, wall light and candle gal and having a beautiful warm glow around you helps to create a sexier mood (and this doesn’t just apply to game night, but any intimate situation). So get your candles out, pop your lamps on, or if you have dimmers on your ceiling lights, then you can dim the lighting that way. 

Seating
Opt for comfortable armchairs if you have them, or if you don’t, then pop some cushions on some chairs. Avoid sitting next to each other; sit opposite your opponent and pop a small table between you, big enough to fit a chess board, dealt cards, or a backgammon board (whatever it is you’ve decided to play) and a glass of wine and water.

Tunes
I opt for some lounge or chill vibe music in this setting. We ended up playing Billie Eilish. I find her songs very sexy.

Food
If you’re playing at night, I suggest eating your dinner beforehand. Something light because heavy food will put you to sleep and make you feel bloated. But you could always have some small pieces of dark chocolate in a bowl or some beautiful olives to snack on throughout. You may also find the chocolate comes in handy for punishments.

Beverages
For the beverages, choose your favourite drink, alcoholic or non-alcoholic. I have popped my recipe for my go-to cocktail, The Negroni, at the bottom of this menu.

Instruments
If you’re playing along with this game, you will have a collection of instruments that you use throughout. Have them neatly set out, close by.

Main Meal (aka How to Play)

The idea is that you play your card/board/chess game, removing clothing for a loss and adding some kinky activities along the way. It’s kinda like a kinky drinking game; instead of shots, you use other “punishments”. 

Before you play, you decide on your boundaries for your punishments. It’s important to discuss what punishments you’re happy with and what you will not consent to. You’ll see some examples at the end of this menu. Setting your opponent’s expectations is really important and will help you get the most out of the experience. 

I suggest you start off with a practice round of the game you’re playing. I hadn’t played cards for some years when my partner and I decided on a games night, so I found having a practice round was a great way to ease into it. It’ll also help build some anticipation.

Game Rules

• Minimum duration of games = two hours

• No penetrative sex during this time

• Each time player loses a round (for example, one play of cards or a chess piece), they must remove an article of clothing and receive one punishment –from the agreed upon list– of the winner’s choice. 

• Remember, all allowed punishments must be worked out before play. Consent, consent, consent! 

• If a player loses three times in a row, they receive five spanks (if spanking isn’t your thing, then choose something else)

• Punishments must not exceed 3 minutes in duration

• Punishment activities must go for the full duration. Timers are allowed ⏰

• The winner chooses which piece of clothing is removed. 

• The following are counted as of one item of clothing: a set of jewellery, and a pair of socks and shoes.

• No more than three layers of clothing are allowed.

• If you decide to play a game where one player is much more experienced than the other, you can implement the Double Trouble rule (punishments apply after two losses for the inexperienced and one for the experienced)

• If players are left fully nude at any point during gameplay, they may wear a light robe for warmth and discretion.

Instruments of punishment

Get creative with your instruments. You can buy some tools or just use what you’ve got. Please let common sense and safety rule here. Here are some suggestions for tools:

• Paddle

• Crop

• Ice 🧊 

• Dildos

• Vibrators

• Food

• Blindfolds

• Handcuffs/ties

• Whips/floggers

• Silk tie

You don’t have to use instruments for your punishments; you could create activities that don’t require any tools.

Punishment activities (duration: 3 minutes)

Here are some examples of the 3-minute punishments you could agree on:

• Take off a piece of clothing to a 3-minute song

• Read from an erotic book

• Suck a piece of chocolate

• Bend over a chair and be spanked

• Be blindfolded and kiss

• Use a dildo to masturbate

You’re in, and you’re out!

Theodora’s Game Night is played once boundaries are set, so decide what is in and out. This can apply to the type of punishments you are happy to receive and those you won’t receive, to the instruments you’re happy to use and have used on you, but it also applies to whether you want to drink alcohol or the area you want to play in, or the types of foods you’re happy to consume.

You can amend the time of the punishments and the time of the game. You’ll also notice that in Theodora’s Game, there is no penetrative sex during the game’s 2-hour duration; doing this can create anticipation and make the evening more fun. That does not mean sex is off the table afterwards, but it also means that it doesn’t have to end with sex. Be clear about how you’d like it to play out.

All players can use this simple Game Night agreement structure:

Name

The following punishments ARE ALLOWED:

• List punishment (for example, I’m happy to be spanked)

• List punishment (for example, I’m happy to play with myself)

The following punishments ARE NOT ALLOWED:

• List punishment (for example, I do not want to insert anything into my butthole)

• List punishment (for example, I do not want to be bound)

Outside of punishments, other play conditions include:

• List conditions (for example, I am open to sex but only after the game)

After the game is finished, I want to do the following:

• List aftercare activities (for example, I would like to snuggle and read)

All players need to fill out their ins and outs. And remember, if it gets to play time and one of your ins becomes an out, that needs to be respected by all players.

Checking in

While playing the game, remember to check in with your partner and ensure they’re still comfortable with the punishments. 

Dessert

If you’re playing Theodora’s Games Night, you can make sex the dessert if you’ve decided it’s on the table. Or perhaps, you’d like to kiss and snuggle. Remember, it’s always good to end your night with some aftercare.

Enjoy, and good luck with Game Night! For your sake, I hope you lose ;)

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