musings for women who are sick of cumming last.

(and those who live to pleasure them)

BAD* sex is a weekly newsletter sent to your inbox that offers brutally honest musings about sex, intimacy and relationships, dished up with a side of humour.

 
 

So, what’s in this sexy newsletter?

musings

This is where it all started. My musings are honest, thoughtful, random and funny. It’s all the stuff you won’t find on Google and can’t be written by ChatGPT.

menus

This is more the instructional stuff. Want to have an erotic cake smash party or make your own sauna whisk for my little kinky bunnies? This is where you’ll find it.

my erotica box

I’ve been collecting the most stunning and unusual erotic curiosities, lingerie and accessories for over a decade and here is where I share them with you. There is no fast fashion here.

ask me anything

You can ask me any question you like. Some have asked me where to buy gender-neutral underwear, and others have asked me how to tell a partner they aren’t being heard. I’m not a therapist but boy, do I have opinions!

 
Featured
The games we play
The games we play

Playing games when you’re a child is a good indicator of social success but playing games when you’re older? Pointless. Heart-wrenching. Anxiety inducing. 

What's her name again?
What's her name again?

Have you ever had amnesia and forgotten someone’s name, too embarrassed to ask? It happens with sex, too. Not the forgetting-the-name part but when you’ve left it “too long” to communicate about something.

Hara hachi bun me
Hara hachi bun me

Restraint is hard, especially when you’re hungry. It’s harder still when you’re horny. But here’s a fun thought: what if we rework the Japanese saying “Hara hachi bun me” and apply it to sex? 

It reads celsius but I want fahrenheit
It reads celsius but I want fahrenheit

Our desires are like seasons; it is quite natural and healthy to move through the weeks, months and years of our lives wanting, and needing different things. 

Are we mad?
Are we mad?

The blatant sexism of the ‘60s may have been forced aside now but it still exists everywhere. It just feels more hidden, like a snide comment under the breath. 

Run from fear
Run from fear

Is there something you want to experience solo or with a partner and you don’t do it because of fear? There’s no escaping fear but you can learn a lot from it.

 

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“We can’t all be turned on at the flick of a button. A great connection doesn’t work like that.”

I’m Jasmin. I am a woman, a lover, a mother, and a creative. A few years ago I did a somewhat out-of-character thing (for an introvert, anyway). I decided I wanted to chat with other women I didn’t know about sex and relationships.

So I started hosting discussion evenings with women. Each evening there was a different topic. We’ve discussed everything from orgasms to anal to BDSM to nurturing a sex life when you have a mental illness. We didn’t need therapy, we had each other! But there’s only so much you can do in person.

So, BAD* sex (*better and dirtier) was born. This newsletter is a space where you’ll find the freedom to explore, comment, ask questions and have fun. It’s written by a woman (ME! Hi!) for women but I also have plenty of subscribers who aren’t women but live to please them.

 

FAQs

  • BAD* sex exists because society still tells us that our pleasure doesn’t matter. And babe, it sure as hell does.

    Perhaps you want to get more orgasms, or have more interesting date nights, or maybe there’s a disconnect in your relationship or maybe your partner is like that jack hammer in that sex and the city episode.

    Or maybe you are trying to navigate sex with kids or maybe you just want something fun and interesting and honest to read every week.

    Life is random and every week, I write and create inspired by something that has happened in my life. It’s honest and very real. But more than that, this is a place for you to ponder and ask questions, too. I’m not a therapist but boy, do I have strong opinions.

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  • Absolutely! You can comment and ask questions below any post in the member’s area. There’s also a google form where you can anonymously ask your questions. I’m not a therapist so you take my advice at your own risk.

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